Have you ever been at a point in your life where you feel lost?


Not lost in the sense of lacking defined life goals, but in the sense of where do I put my foot next. What is the next step?

Over the past few months, I have been in this place. It is a place where I hate to be as I have everything mapped out in my head, but for some reason, I do not know how to get there.

Life is unpredictable, and we never know where we will end up. We can plan our lives to a “T,” but at any time, at any moment, those plans can be derailed and we are on a totally different course.

Life requires spontaneity sometimes, no calculation, no planning, just going with your gut. This can be very scary and you never know where you will go or what you will do, but sometimes it can be the most rewarding move you ever make.

On the other hand,  when you have everything planned out the way you think it should go, you set yourself up for so much disappointment if things go awry. You leave yourself open to demotivation and depression. You become totally vulnerable to the elements if you feel for the slightest that your life will go in a totally different direction than you designed.

In many ways, I think the latter is worse than just going with the flow. There is some comfort in not knowing because then you have no expectations, you have no idea what will come next.

However, when you have laid out a map before you, and you see the end destination in sight, but do not know which routes to take to get there, you become frustrated.

A plan is necessary in most cases to ensure success. Having goals and markers as to where you want to be in the future will help you align better your focus and intentions. It can be very helpful when you have such a guide, as you know the things you need to have in place to better enable success.

Hence, having a plan is not the bad part, the downside comes in when that plan gets misaligned for whatever reason, and you do not know how to find your way back on the path to your dreams. You have an overall idea of what you want to achieve, but in simpler terms, you need the landmarks along the journey to help you get there.

So I am not lost, I just need to find some firm ground to put my feet on. A “definite” direction as to where I should go and what I should do. I am seeking that firm ground every day, I will not give up. It takes a lot of feeling around, a lot of searching and a lot of thought. But, when you find that sweet spot to lay your feet and continue your journey, you will know.

Have you ever been in this position?

Let’s talk in the comments below.

One Love,

Dave Anthony

Posted by:Dave Anthony

I am a Jamaican born Entrepreneur living in the United States. Adventurous, writer, weird, down to earth. Here I write about interesting stuff that educates, thrills and influences.

4 replies on “The Downside of Having a Plan

  1. Im in the same boat as you, Dave. I can totally relate with not being able to take the next step. Thing is, I find that I really dont know where Im going right now. The end goal for me is always changing and otherdays its fuzzy or clear. Im certainly lost, but im happily enjoying where my life takes me at the moment. I guess for the moment, im done with planning. I hope to find in me the motivation to take the next plunge…

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    1. Thanks for your feedback Reis. Indeed, not knowing where to go next can be scary, but it can also be filled with opportunity. Just try to see the positive in the situation. You would be surprised at what comes in your path when you least expect it. All the best on your journey. One Love!

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  2. When I was feeling this a couple years ago, I started listening to the Smart Passive Income podcast. At first I wasn’t sure if I would find the answers I sought there. But, honestly, Pat teaches you, basically, how to make a living online – specifically with your own website and the things to do with it. I’m hoping his principles will apply (as I’ve been operating my own website for about half a year) to a “happiness” business, such as what I’m trying to do. 🙂 Not sure if that will help, but that really helped me. I’ve gained so many insights and tips – many of which I know I need to apply but haven’t, yet, mostly due to time and prioritizing. But, well…we’ll get there. 🙂 You’ll get there.

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    1. Thanks for your feedback as always Cynthia. I am a fan of Pat Flynn, and yes, he teaches many principles that can be applied to our hobbies and businesses as bloggers. I hope you will find some time soon to start applying them to your life if you think they will be a change agent for you. Happiness is a journey, and the closer you get to achieving your goals, research shows, the happier you become. I am still on that journey, and it sounds like you are too. We’ll definitely get there, I have no doubt about that. This is a marathon, not a sprint. One Love!


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